Protecting Relationships During A Pandemic
Some Really Good Tips
Some Really Good Tips
This Is Helpful For ALL. It Is Also A Necessity For Some.
I Wish To Bring All The Help I Can During This Challenging Time In 2020.
Commencing A New Decade Is Usually Positive And Encouraging. In Australia, We Had The Fires
Followed The Virus After A Few Weeks Of Recovery - We Understand These Times Aren't Easy.
So I've Been Researching Today On Ways Everyone Can Manage Over The Next Few Months.
This First Article I Found Is Suitable For Couples, Families And Those Sharing House.
Essentials to Ensure Your Relationship Survives COVID-19 Confinement
By Dr Karen Phillip
Essentials to Ensure Your Relationship Survives COVID-19 Confinement
By Dr Karen Phillip
We are experiencing a time of uncertainty and fear, our stress levels are high, and the result can often be
frustration and irritability. When we have no set routine or purpose, we can quickly become overwhelmed and depressed.
Avoiding these feelings is imperative. These useful tips will help keep your relationship emotionally connected
when you're isolated with your partner:
1. Enjoy Some Alone Time
A little alone time each day is essential. We all need time by our self and not just during a bathroom break.
Time to be alone to work, chat with family and friends, read, all without distractions from your partner is essential.
Establish time with your partner so each of you have some alone time to recharge and ensure that you remain
as relaxed and balanced as you can.
2. Arrange A Schedule
Your regular schedule has changed. When we can organise a new plan, it gives us back a sense of control. This is particularly helpful for those couples navigating working from home. Agree on the rules about noise, music, or interruptions when working. Design a working schedule around activities you want or need to do each day. A plan helps life become less frustrating and more organised. A schedule benefits our mental health.
3. Fresh Air And Exercise
Physical activity stimulates the release of dopamine, norepinephrine and serotonin, our feel-good hormones. These brain chemicals are important in lowering stress levels. When outside or in nature for a walk or run, or even enjoying your own garden, we reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. If quarantined, you may be more restricted, so enjoying nature can help create that good feeling along with exercise routines inside to keep your body moving.
4. Connect With The Outside World
We currently are unable to go out and socialise with friends or spend time with extended family members. However, there are ways to communicate with friends, colleagues and loved ones as these relationships are essential to maintain. Enjoy that one or two calls each day with other people either via phone or video calls. Staying in touch with others is beneficial for your mental health and overall sanity. You can share a beverage or meal together while at different locations over video chat apps and conversations can remain fun and active even when physically apart.
5. Learn New Communication Techniques
Good communication is vital in all relationships. When you are isolated together 24/7, effective communication is even more essential. Listen, value and empathise with your partner. Like you, they likely feel frustrated and emotional. Spend this time learning improved styles of communication. This time cooped-up together can make or break some relationships. Learning how to respond more thoughtfully, eliminating poor or harsh responses, and improving tolerance is vital. The last thing either of you needs is added tension and stress.
6. Add Some Active Fun To Your Day
Adding fun and laughter can help get you through tough and challenging times stronger. We all need laughter and joy in our life. Cooking up some unusual combinations of food together, dancing because no one is watching, singing as no one can hear you (except your partner).
7. Practice Tolerance
Tolerance is your ability and willingness to tolerate opinions or behaviors of your partner while practicing patience and avoiding judgement. It is about listening carefully, understanding the reason they do or say something and treating your partner with dignity and respect even if you disagree. Tolerance allows you to think more openly which can lead to less stress and greater relationship happiness.
Our world is more uncertain and stressful right now. Using relaxation strategies when we are confined together can help
keep us more balanced. You can create stories that you will share for years to come on how you responded and thrived
during this pandemic.
Tips To Help Fill Each Day:
1.) Learn new things about each other. Write out questions for your partner you want to know, you can write the response you think they will give before reading the answer they provide. This can be an informative and very funny time depending on the type of answers each respond with.
2.) Learning new communication skills during this challenging time to help reduce conflict and enrich your connection not only now but for all time ahead.
3.) Plan all the things you want to do together or alone during this time, share the plan and discuss so you can both obtain what you want and need.
4.) Schedule time for each of you to work, chat with friends and family. Arrange together time to watch a movie, cook, clean, exercise, dance, play and escaping for a short walk or run together, if you can.
5) Learn a new skill, perhaps something you always wanted to develop but never had the time.
Get out into nature or watch nature programs if you are stuck inside.* * * * * * *
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How to Keep the Romance Alive Amid the Coronavirus Pandemic
By Wendy Rose Gould
By Wendy Rose Gould
Whether you've been together for a handful of months or several decades, it's far too easy to get swept up in the daily
ins and outs of life. This becomes even more difficult when faced with the stark uncertainty of the coronavirus pandemic,
when the attention and energy you'd otherwise give to your relationship is easily directed elsewhere.
While it’s not a bad thing to lean into the comfort of an established relationship and some sense of routine during this time, keeping that spark of romance ever-present bodes well for your emotional and physical connection, as well as
your mental health. Here we have outlined four specific ways you can do just that.
Commit Small Gestures of Love
“Relationship research has concluded repeatedly that everyday gestures that express fondness and appreciation for your partner are essential to feeling close and connected,” notes Elizabeth Hale-Rose, LCWS for Privé-Swiss
Wellness in Connecticut.
“Feeling close and connected is important for all aspects of vibrant partnership.
Also, keep in mind that thoughtful gestures are a part of romance.”
Every person is unique regarding the types of gestures they appreciate most, and you know your partner best.
sending a lovey text message in the middle of the workday (Even if you're only a few feet apart)
having breakfast ready for them on a weekend morning
tackling a dreaded chore he or she usually tends to leave aside
delivering a cup of soothing tea to the couch come nightfall
taking time for little hugs and kisses throughout the day
The increased amount of time you’re spending together provides ample opportunity to make at least
one small gesture every day. It will make you feel good to offer these tokens of love, as well.
Here Are Some Solid Ways to Strengthen a Marriage and Avoid Separation.
Check-in With Your Partner Regularly
Even if you know your partner backward and forward and can usually anticipate their every need, we’re all experiencing something we've never gone through before. If you're in the beginning of a relationship or still figuring each other out,
it's also important to step back and check-in with your partner.
Most importantly, is taking the time to specifically ask your partner what they might need from you during this
unprecedented time signals your love for them, fosters a romantic connection, and can help you both weather the storm.
“With life running at normal speed it can be difficult to sense your partner’s needs, but under the umbrella of all this chaos it may be impossible if you don’t actually check in with them,” says Dr. Colleen Mullen, Pys.D, LMFT, and author.
“They may look like they are keeping it together and doing well but are just barely staving off a panic attack. They may also look like they are irritated by everything around them, but really, they are scared or worried for their elderly parent.”
Examples of What You Might Say
1.) How can I best support you today/right now/in these next months?
2.) It looks like you’ve been handling all of this really well, but I just wanted to check in with you to make sure.
3.) Do you want to talk about anything you’re feeling right now? If not now, maybe later?
You can also take this time to share your own concerns or needs with your partner. Being vulnerable will help you both remain on the same page, be a figurative and literal shoulder to cry on, and will make it easier to practice empathy even when getting on each other's nerves.
When life really picks up steam, finding the time (or desire) to be physically intimate can become increasingly difficult. Still, physical intimacy is incredibly important to maintaining romance and deep emotional connection with your partner.
And this definitely doesn't have to always mean sex.
Some other ways you might foster a physical connection include the following:
Snuggling on the couch
Holding hands on a long walk
Trading five-minute massages
Simply having conversations about physical intimacy can help spark desire and connection, too. You might find that now
is a good time to talk about (and/or satisfy) either other's fantasies or things you've been curious about.
Interestingly, having sex has also been linked to reduction in stress hormones.
Sit Down and Reminisce Together
Looking back at the “good old’ times” can bring happy memories, make you laugh, and make you remember just how far
you two have come together over the months or years.
“Brain research informs us that intentionally recalling good times helps strengthen the neural pathways that support
well-being. We know that our brain stores information through an associative process so, in other words, neurons that
fire together wire together,” says Hale-Rose. “Intentionally recalling pleasant and fun memories with your partner helps associate the feelings generated by these memories with your partner.”
If your relationship is relatively new, think back to those initial flirty text conversations, your first few days, or funny moments that might have occurred when meeting each other's families or friends.
If you're in a more established relationship, go ahead and open an old photo album or look through old cards or mementos
or simply sit face to face recalling hilarious or heartwarming memories.
Plan Dates Together
We’re clearly spending quantity time with our partners through the Coronavirus pandemic but also make sure you’re taking moments to spend quality time together.
“It is so important to spend quality time with your partner during this stay at home order. You may have dinner every night with your partner while staying in, but a date at night is about connecting and escaping life stressors,” says Dr. Mullen.
“The kicker on this is that, of course, date night is still within the same four walls non-date nights take place,
so it will take some creativity to change the set up.”
Maybe that means transforming the dining room into a white-linen, candlelit space, pushing the furniture out of the living room to create a dance floor, or setting up an indoor picnic complete with basket and blanket. Make sure you’re planning events where you can truly engage.
Whatever your date night might entail, Dr. Mullen says to focus conversations on each other and to do your best to avoid talking about the virus, fears, money, cabin fever, etc. There’s a time and a place for those conversations (you can even proactively allocate time to discuss these topics) but the purpose of date night is to fall into each other.
A Word From Us
Relationships will certainly be tested over the next few months. Not just because you’ll be spending every waking moment with your partner, but because a global catastrophe of this scale can weigh heavily on each of you and in faceted ways.
Now, more than ever is a time to face toward each other to foster closeness. Sure, hiccups and arguments are to be expected, but as long as you both work toward the same goal of coming out on the other side closer than you’ve ever been before, that is what matters most of all.
I found this article on a very good website called VeryWellMind.Com
They have some interesting Topics.